Education Special Section Rules of Engagement Protocol Instruction Pulls Together Finer Points of Global Diplomacy by Mark Hilpert In the BlackBerry era, old customs and rules of etiquette may seem dated or even obsolete. But a growing need to understand protocol (Greek for “first glue”) in conducting international business has increased the demand for instruction on cultivating superior social graces both at home and abroad. The Glue for Sticky Situations Shelby Scarbrough, founder of Practical Protocol in Alexandria, Va., was baptized into protocol as a trip coordinator for President Ronald Reagan. She stressed that protocol is not about creating rules people will accidentally break and therefore be embarrassed by. “It’s about the bond, the relationship,” said Scarbrough, who teaches corporate and high net-worth individuals on conducting business abroad. “Many in this industry are sticklers for ‘the rules,’ but they’re really traditions which can evolve and change. The point is to create a relationship, not a barrier.” Yet John Crawford Howell, vice president of the International Association of Protocol Consultants, said we shouldn’t be too quick to dismiss some of those old rules of conduct, arguing that they can help the socially awkward succeed in every conceivable social setting. “To know the rules is to build the confidence and knowledge that one can flow with ease and grace from small talk to receiving line to evening’s ‘adieu,’” he said. As an example, Howell advised that when hosting a guest from China, at a minimum greet him or her in Chinese and know who Hu Jintao (the president) is. Such behavior is likely to be more successful than the American businessman in Hong Kong pictured in a recent television commercial who greets his Chinese host with a botched Mandarin greeting of “Hello, stinky fish face.” Pamela Eyring, director of the Protocol School of Washington, recalled an example of one success story where language removed a cultural barrier: The secretary of the Smithsonian Institution learned just enough Swahili to greet the first lady of Tanzania in her own language, instantly impressing her. “I believe it is all about how you make people feel,” said Eyring. “The secretary showed respect and honor to her country, which started a positive relationship.” And building those types of positive relationships can be key to restoring America’s tarnished image abroad since the Iraq war. “Especially today, when America’s global image has faltered, the role of protocol officers is not just important, it’s essential,” according to Eyring. “These people are America’s frontline, goodwill ambassadors who daily represent the U.S.” Taking Off the Gloves Scarbrough emphasized the importance of differentiating between protocol and etiquette. While protocol involves matters ranging from where to seat VIPs at a high-profile event to who should be invited in the first place, etiquette is more narrowly focused, yet often crucial to how behavior is perceived. One example is the 2005 controversy over President Bush’s failure to remove his gloves when he shook hands with the president of the Slovak Republic. The etiquette breach quickly overshadowed the larger fact that Bush was the first American president to visit Slovakia since it gained independence. Scarbrough also advises her clients to beware of their own body language flubs. “Don’t gesture if you don’t really know what it means and keep your knees together and feet on the ground,” she said, using the example of how showing the sole of your foot in the Middle East is an insult. Scarbrough said there is “still a lot of mystery” on this entire subject that people need help to understand. She recalled with some amazement a law firm that wanted to expand into China and asked for a full briefing on the country in 75 minutes. Scarbrough made do, arranging a lunch of the “really slippery food” that the firm’s lawyers would have to master in China and providing tutorials on Chinese gift-giving and toasting customs. For such clients, Scarbrough offers “protocol in a box,” quick consultations when questions emerge and time is short for answers. Eyring agreed that even in a fast-pace business environment, too much focus on speed can be self-defeating. “More people communicate today by e-mail, cell, [instant messaging] and text messaging, and when they have to communicate face to face they fumble,” she said, attributing this to a lack of “protocol intelligence.” “The relentless need for speed demonstrates how our opposable thumbs work really well when texting, but relegate face-to-face and voice-to-voice interaction to the sociological dustbin,” added Howell. Howell lamented that as a result, the protocol industry sometime seems to be “in a reactive mode,” reduced to devising rules of behavior for using modern communications devices such as Bluetooth wireless headsets. “The timeless principles of protocol must continue to be taught, since one never knows when the need for them will arise,” argued Howell. “An inopportune blush will confirm a missed lesson.” Scarbrough recalled one such missed lesson with horror. She took a group of Muslim businessmen from Indonesia to a U.S. company, which proceeded to lay out a deli meat spread. Scarbrough finessed their gaffe by delicately pointing out the pork products to the Muslims so that they would not consume them (pork is forbidden by Islam), but the damage was already done: The Indonesians took their business elsewhere. Beware of Large Gifts Scarbrough said that although plenty of protocol and etiquette information is available on the Internet, instruction such as her in-person sessions is far more reliable. “You can find the what, but I teach the why,” she said, noting that such explanations as to the method behind certain manners can help the knowledge stick. As an example, Scarbrough cited the Japanese emphasis on a gift’s significance and presentation over its size or value. The reason? Presents in Japan can’t be big because of most people’s tight living conditions. Next Page

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